杨达拉利奥ted爱情演讲稿-爱是什么

每个人对爱情都有不同的解读，只有经历过的人才能懂，所以感觉也是不同的。但没经历过的人可能会疑惑，爱情是什么样的感觉呢？那么,下面这位演讲家对爱情是如何解读的呢?让我们一起来看看杨达拉利奥在ted的关于爱情的演讲稿吧,可能会对大家都很有帮助哦。

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爱情是什么?它是一个很难定义的词汇,因为它有极为广泛的应用。我可以喜爱慢跑,我可以爱一本书、一部电影,我可以爱吃肉排,我可以爱我的妻子。

但这爱存在着庞大的区别,比如说,我对肉排之爱与对我妻子的爱,便有显着不同。也就是说,如果我珍视肉排的话,肉排,相反地,却不会珍视我。然而我的妻子呢,她唤我为她生命中的星星。

因此,只有一种他人的欲望意识才能够将我视为一个得以被欲望的个体。我知道这一点,这就是为什么我们可以更准确地把爱情定义为“被欲望中的欲望”。于是,这关于爱的永恒难题即为:如何使自己被欲望?如何使自己持续地被欲望?

过去,一个个体往往透过将自己的生命交由群体规范来寻求这问题的解答。你可以根据你的性别、年龄,和社会地位,来扮演某种特定角色。而且你只需要扮演好那角色即可获得整个社群的爱与重视。想想那个必须在婚前保持贞洁的年轻女子,想想那个必须服从长子的那最小儿子,而那长子又必须服从家族长辈。

但一种始于13世纪,主要是在西方文艺复兴时期的现象造成了人类历史上最严重的身份危机。这现象就是现代性。我们基本上可以通过三种过程来总结它:首先是,一个理性化的科学研究过程,它加快了科技的进步。接着,一个政治的民主化进程促进了个人的权利。最后出现的是经济生产与贸易自由化的理性进程。

这三个相互交织的过程完全推倒了西方社会的所有传统根基,并对个人生活造成巨变。现在,个人可以自由地珍爱或蔑视任何态度、任何选择、任何事物;但结果是,他们自己同样也面对了他人的自由,他人用来珍视或贬低他们的自由。换句话说,这曾经透过将自己提交给传统权威而确保了的自我价值现在却被投诸于股票交易所,任人估量。

在个人欲望的自由市场中,我每天都在商议我的个体价值。因此,这造成了当代人的焦虑。他/她总是痴迷于:“我是否可欲?如何可欲?有多少人会爱我?”他/她得如何回应这种焦虑呢?嗯,通过歇斯底里地收集可欲的象征。

我把这种与他人一块儿的收集性的行为称作“诱惑资本”。事实上,我们的消费社会很大程度上是建基于诱惑资本之上的。关于这种消费性质,有人声称我们的时代是唯物主义的。但这不是真的!我们收藏事物,仅仅只是为了与其他心灵交流!我们这么做,是为了使他们喜欢我们,是为了引诱他人!没有什么还要比让一个青少年买新牛仔裤然后撕到膝盖边更要非物质主义,或更令人感伤了,因为他想要博得珍妮佛的青睐。消费主义不是物质主义。它却是那些以爱神之名牺牲了的或生吞活剥了的一切,或者,不如说是,以诱惑资本的名义。

根据这种对于当代爱情的观察,我们该如何思考未来的爱情呢?我们可以想象两种假设:第一个是由赌注组成的,这赌注将加深自恋的资本化过程。很难说这深化过程会采取怎样的形式,因为它很大程度上取决于社会与科技的创新,这是难以预测的。但我们仍然可以试着想象一种约会网站,一种有点类似绩点奖励促销的方案,使用诱惑资本点数,这点数会根据我的某些特质而变化,比如年龄、身高体重比例、学历、薪水、或我网上档案的点击量。我们也可以想象一种对于分手的化学治疗疗程,这种疗程可以缓解恋爱情愫。

此外顺带一提,现在在MTV上已经有了一种类似的节目了,在那节目中,诱惑教师将心痛视为一种疾病来治疗。这些教师自称“把妹达人(pick-upartists)”。“(Artist)艺术家”在法语中意味着“表演艺术家(artiste)”。“Pick-up”意指是勾搭但不是随便勾搭——必须勾搭最靓的。所以他们都是勾搭靓妹的表演艺术家。(笑声)他们称心痛为“真命天女症(one-itis)”,在英语中,“itis”是“(infection)感染”的字尾,我们可以把one-itis译为“被那一人感染”。它是有点恶心啦。事实上,对那些“把妹达人”来说,爱上一个人是在浪费时间,它浪费你的诱惑资本。因此,它必须被根治,就像一种疾病,彷佛发炎一般。我们还可以设想一种拥有浪漫用途的基因组。每个人都会到处拿着它,就像一张名片一样到处发,来查明是否诱惑可以进阶到繁殖。

当然,这场诱惑的竞赛,如同每项激烈赛事,将创造出关于自恋满意度的巨大不平等,于是它也会产生许多孤单与失落。因此,我们可以预想的是,现代性本身这个诱惑资本的来源,会被许多人质疑。我想到的某种特别的反应,即为新法西斯主义社群或宗教社群。但我们并不一定要拥有这种未来。

我们可以思索另一种关于爱情的可能性路径。但如何思索呢?如何放弃进行歇斯底里地估价的需要?嗯,这个嘛,意识到我自己的一无是处,即可。是的,一无是处,我很没用。但请放心:你们也是。

我们都是没用的。这种无用性是很容易证明的,因为,为了要寻求珍视,我需要另一半来欲望我,这显示了,我自身其实并不具有任何价值。我没有任何固有的价值。我们都假装有偶像;我们都假装自己是别人的偶像,但实际上我们个个都是滥竽充数之人,有点像街上的路人,他们全都表现出冷漠的样子,虽然他实际上已预期,并且算计出所有的目光都会朝向他。

我觉得,越来越意识到这种一般的冒用性,这样的忧虑就得以缓解我们的恋爱关系。因为,我想要从头到脚地被爱,扞卫我每一个选择,那诱惑的歇斯底里存在着。因此,我想要看起来完美,以让他人可以爱我。我希望他们能够完美,这样我就可以确定我的价值。它会导致情人们沉迷于绩效,谁会像以前那样以绩效不好的结果分手呢。

相对于这种态度,我呼吁,用温柔——温柔的爱。什么是温柔?温柔意谓着去接受你爱人的弱点。它非关成为某种悲凉的伴侣照护者哟。它没那么糟。相反地,在温柔中,存在着许多魅力和幸福。我特别想到一种幽默,这种幽默,很不幸地,尚未得到充分利用。它是一种蓄意的尴尬诗歌。

我指的是自嘲。对于那些由传统约束的、无以为继的伴侣们,我相信自嘲是得以忍受彼此关系的最佳途径之一。

译文:

What is love? It is a word that is difficult to define, because it has the extremely widespread application. I can love jogging, I can love a book, a movie, I can love to eat steak, I can love my wife.

But this love is a huge difference, for example, I love the steak with love to my wife, there is significant different. That is to say, if I cherish chops, steak, on the contrary, do not cherish me. However, my wife, she calls for her star in my life.

Therefore, only a sense of other people's desire to see me as a desire to be individual. I know this, that's why we can love more accurately defined as "desire of desire". So the eternal difficult problem about love is: how to make myself be desire? How to make oneself are continually desire?

In the past, an individual often through their lives to the group norms to seek the answer of the question. You can according to your gender, age, and social status, to play a certain role. And you only need to play that role for the whole community of love and attention. Consider that must maintain a virtuous young woman before marriage, think about that must obey the eldest son of the youngest son, and the eldest son must obey family elders.

But a kind of from the 13th century, mainly in the western Renaissance phenomenon caused by one of the most serious identity crisis in human history. This phenomenon is the modernity. We basically can be summarized by three processes: it is first and foremost, a rational scientific research process, it accelerated the progress of science and technology. Then, a political democratization process to promote the rights of individuals. Finally is the production and the rational process of trade liberalization.

The process of the three intertwined over all the traditional foundation of the western society, and cause changes to the personal life. Now, people are free to cherish or despise any manner, any choice, any things; But as a result, they are also faced with the freedom of others, others to cherish or belittle their freedom. In other words, it was through their submitted to traditional authority and ensures that the self value is now being cast on the stock exchange, allow to measure.

In the personal desire of the free market, I consulted my individual value every day. Therefore, this causes the modern people's anxiety. He/she always obsessed with: "how can I desire? To? How many people will love me?" How is he/she respond to this anxiety? Well, through collecting hysterically can be the symbol of desire.

I put this together with others of collection of sexual behavior is called "temptation capital". In fact, our consumer society is largely based on the temptation of capital. About the nature of consumption, someone claims that our age is materialism. But that's not true! We collect things, just in order to communicate with other heart! We do so, it is to make them like us, to entice others! There is nothing more than to let a young people to buy a new jeans and then to tear by the side of the knee more to the materialism, or more sad, because he wants to win the favour of Jennifer. Consumerism is not a materialist. It was sacrificed in the name of the goddess or all alive, or, rather, in the name of the temptation of capital.

According to this observation on contemporary love, how do we think about the future of love? We can imagine two hypotheses: the first one is composed of a bet, the bet will deepen the capitalization process of narcissism. It's hard to tell what form will be taken, the deepening process because it largely depends on the society and the innovation of science and technology, it is difficult to predict. But we can still try to imagine a dating site, a similar performance bonus promotion plan, use lure capital points, the points according to some of my qualities, such as age, height, body weight ratio, educational background, salary, or I online file. We can also imagine a for chemical treatment of break up, this course can alleviate the love feeling.

And by the way, is now in the hands of the MTV already has a similar program, in the program, heartache is regarded as a kind of disease to treat temptation to teachers. These teachers who "put's (pick - upartists)". "(Artist) Artist" in French means "performance Artist (artiste)". "Pick - up" means is up but not solicit - have to hook up with the most beautiful. So they are carrying jing younger sister performing artists. (laughter.) they called heartache "destiny's child syndrome (one - itis)", in English, "itis" is a word "(infection) infection", we can put one - itis translated as "infection" by the people. It is just a little bit sick. In fact, for those who "the younger sister's got talent", fall in love with a person is a waste of time, it is a waste of your capital. Therefore, it must be cured, is like a disease, like inflammation. We can also imagine a genome with romantic purposes. Everyone can take it everywhere, just like a name card everywhere, to find out whether the temptation can be advanced to reproduction.

The temptation of competition, of course, like every fierce competition, will create a huge inequalities about narcissistic satisfaction, so it will produce many lonely and lost. Therefore, we can be expected that modernity itself the temptation of capital source, will be questioned by many people. I think of a particular reaction, that is, for the new fascism community or religious community. But we don't have to have this in the future.

We can think about another path about the possibility of love. But how do you think? How to give up hysterically valuation needs? Well, well, aware of my own nothing, only can. Yes, nothing, I am useless. But please rest assured: you, too.

We are all useless. The futility of it can be easily proved that nothing is because, in order to seek to value, I need the other half to my desire, this shows, I don't really have any value. I don't have any inherent value. We pretend to have idols; We are pretending to be idols for others, but in fact we are all of others, a bit like the passers-by in the street, they all show the appearance of indifference, although he actually have expectations, and calculated that all eyes will be on him.

I think, more and more aware of the general use, such worries are easing our relationship. Because, I want to be love from head to foot, defending my every choice, the temptation of hysteria. So, I want to look perfect, so that others may love me. I hope they can perfect, so I can determine the value of I. Addicted to performance, it can lead to lovers who would like to break up the results of the performance is not good in that way before.

Relative to this attitude, I called for, with soft, tender love. What is the tender? Tender means to accept the weaknesses of your beloved. It's not be a sad companion caregivers yo. Its not so bad. On the contrary, in the tender, there are a lot of charm and happiness. In particular, I think a sense of humor, humor, unfortunately, has not been fully taken advantage of. It is a deliberate the embarrassment of poetry.

I mean the self-mockery. For those from the traditional constraints, die couples, I believe self-mockery is one of the best ways to endure their relations with each other.