莱温斯基ted经典演讲稿

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good morning,dear my friends.
You're looking at a woman who was publicly silent for a decade.Obviously,that's changed,but only recently.

It was several months ago that I gave my very first major public talk at the Forbes 30 Under 30 summit:1,500 brilliant people,all under the age of 30.That meant that in 1998,the oldest among the group were only 14,and the youngest,just four.I joked with them that some might only have heard of me from rap songs.Yes,I'm in rap songs.Almost 40 rap songs.

But the night of my speech,a surprising thing happened.At the age of 41,I was hit on by a 27-year-old guy.I know,right?He was charming and I was flattered,and I declined.You know what his unsuccessful pickup line was?He could make me feel 22 again.I realized later that night,I'm probably the only person over 40 who does not want to be 22 again.

At the age of 22,I fell in love with my boss,and at the age of 24,I learned the devastating consequences.

Can I see a show of hands of anyone here who didn't make a mistake or do something they regretted at 22?Yep.That's what I thought.So like me,at 22,a few of you may have also taken wrong turns and fallen in love with the wrong person,maybe even your boss.Unlike me,though,your boss probably wasn't the president of the United States of America.Of course,life is full of surprises.

Not a day goes by that I'm not reminded of my mistake,and I regret that mistake deeply.

This rush to judgment,enabled by technology,led to mobs of virtual stone-throwers.Granted,it was before social media,but people could still comment online,email stories,and,of course,email cruel jokes.News sources plastered photos of me all over to sell newspapers,banner ads online,and to keep people tuned to the TV.Do you recall a particular image of me,say,wearing a beret?

Now,I admit I made mistakes,especially wearing that beret.But the attention and judgment that I received,not the story,but that I personally received,was unprecedented.I was branded as a tramp,tart,slut,whore,bimbo,and,of course,that woman.I was seen by many but actually known by few.And I get it:it was easy to forget that that woman was dimensional,had a soul,and was once unbroken.

When this happened to me 17 years ago,there was no name for it.Now we call it cyberbullying(网络欺凌)andonline harassment(网络骚扰).Today,I want to share some of my experience with you,talk about how that experience has helped shape my cultural observations,and how I hope my past experience can lead to a change that results in less suffering for others.

This was not something that happened with regularity back then in 1998,and by this,I mean the stealing of people's private words,actions,conversations or photos,and then making them public--public without consent,public without context,and public without compassion.

Fast forward 12 years to 2010,and now social media has been born.The landscape has sadly become much more populated with instances like mine,whether or not someone actually make a mistake,and now it's for both public and private people.The consequences for some have become dire,very dire.

I was on the phone with my mom in September of 2010,and we were talking about the news of a young college freshman from Rutgers University named Tyler Clementi.Sweet,sensitive,creative Tyler was secretly webcammed by his roommate while being intimate with another man.When the online world learned of this incident,the ridicule and cyberbullying ignited.A few days later,Tyler jumped from the George Washington Bridge to his death.He was 18.

My mom was beside herself about what happened to Tyler and his family,and she was gutted with painin a way that I just couldn't quite understand,and then eventually I realized she was reliving 1998,reliving a time when she sat by my bed every night,reliving a time when she made me shower with the bathroom door open,and reliving a time when both of my parents feared that I would be humiliated to death,literally.

Cruelty to others is nothing new,but online,technologically enhanced shaming is amplified,uncontained,and permanently accessible.The echo of embarrassment used to extend only as far as your family,village,school or community,but now it's the online community too.Millions of people,often anonymously,can stab you with their words,and that's a lot of pain,and there are no perimeters around how many people can publicly observe you and put you in a public stockade.There is a very personal price to public humiliation,and the growth of the Internet has jacked up that price.

Changing behavior begins with evolving beliefs.We've seen that to be true with racism,homophobia,and plenty of other biases,today and in the past.As we've changed beliefs about same-sex marriage,more people have been offered equal freedoms.When we began valuing sustainability,more people began to recycle.So as far as our culture of humiliation goes,what we need is a cultural revolution.Public shaming as a blood sport has to stop,and it's time for an intervention on the Internet and in our culture.

The shift begins with something simple,but it's not easy.We need to return to a long-held value of compassion--compassion and empathy.Online,we've got a compassion deficit,an empathy crisis.

We talk a lot about our right to freedom of expression,but we need to talk more about our responsibility to freedom of expression.We all want to be heard,but let's acknowledge the difference between speaking up with intention and speaking up for attention.The Internet is the superhighway for the id,but online,showing empathy to others benefits us all and helps create a safer and better world.We need to communicate online with compassion,consume news with compassion,and click with compassion.Just imagine walking a mile in someone else's headline.I'd like to end on a personal note.In the past nine months,the question I've been asked the most is why.Why now?Why was I sticking my head above the parapet?You can read between the lines in those questions,and the answer has nothing to do with politics.

The top note answer was and is because it's time:time to stop tip-toeing around my past;time to stop living a life of opprobrium;and time to take back my narrative.It's also not just about saving myself.Anyone who is suffering from shame and public humiliation needs to know one thing:You can survive it.I know it's hard.It may not be painless,quick or easy,but you can insist on a different ending to your story.Have compassion for yourself.We all deserve compassion,and to live both online and off in a more compassionate world.

Thank you for listening.

亲爱的朋友们:
早上好!

站在你们面前的这个女性曾在公众面前沉默了十年。显然,现在不一样了,不过这只是最近的事。几个月前在福布斯”30位30岁以下创业者”峰会上,我首次公开发表演讲,峰会上有1500位杰出人士,全部不到30岁。这就意味着在1998年,其中最年长的人也只有14岁,最年轻的则只有4岁。我同他们开玩笑,有些人似乎只是从说唱音乐中听过我的名字。没错,说唱音乐唱过我,几乎有40首这样的说唱音乐。

在我演讲当晚意外的事情发生了,作为一个41岁的女性,竟然有一个27岁的小伙子勾搭我。我知道,难以相信吧?他很有魅力,说了不少奉承的话,结果我拒绝了。知道他的搭讪不成功在哪吗?他说他能让我感到又回到了22岁……那天晚上我意识到,40岁时不想回到22岁的人或许就只有我了。22岁时,我爱上了我的老板,在24岁那年,我明白了其毁灭性的后果。

能否请大家举手告诉我,如果你觉得自己22岁时没有犯过错,没有做过让自己后悔的事,请举手?同我想的一样,和我一样,22岁那年,你们中的一些人大概也犯过错,爱上过错误的人,或许也正是你的老板。不过和我不同,你的老板八成不是美国总统。当然,生活充满了意外。每一天我都被提醒这个错误,我每天都在深深后悔。

记得我那张照片吗?戴着贝雷帽的那张?我承认,我犯了错误,特别是不该戴那顶贝雷帽。在关注故事之外,人们对我个人的关注和道德审判也是前所未有的,我被打上各种标签荡妇、妓女、母狗、婊子、贱人,当然还有“那个女人”。很多人都看到了我,但很少有人了解我。我明白,人们很容易忘记一个女人是多维度的,其实她也有灵魂,也曾是完好无缺的。17年前,这些发生在我身上的事还没有专门的名词来称呼。现在,我们称之为网络欺凌和线上骚扰。

快进12年到2010年,社交媒体出现了,像我这样的例子开始越来越多,甚至无论当事人有没有犯错。而且公众人物和普通人都深受其害,有些事件的结果非常悲惨。

2010年9月我和我妈打了一通电话,我们谈到了一则新闻,关于罗格斯大学的一个大学新生。他叫泰勒·克莱门蒂——亲切、灵敏、富有创造性的泰勒被室友偷拍到和另一个男的有亲密行为,视频被传播到网上,嘲笑和网络欺凌之火被点燃。几天后,泰勒从乔治·华盛顿大桥纵身跃下……生命就这样逝去……他只有18岁。

近二十年来,我们逐渐在文化的土壤中,播下了羞辱和公开侮辱的种子。无论是网上还是网下,八卦网站、狗仔队、真人节目、政治、新闻报道甚至黑客,这些都是羞辱的渠道。麻木不仁、无孔不入的网络环境让网络煽动、隐私侵犯、网络欺凌越来越猖獗。这种转变创造出了尼古拉斯·米尔斯教授所说的“羞辱文化”。

耻辱则变成了一种产业。如何赚钱呢?点击。羞辱越多,点击也就越多,点击越多,广告费也越多。这是一个危险的循环。我们对这些八卦点击得越多,我们就会对故事背后的人越麻木,我们越是麻木,就越会去点击。自始至终,都是有些人在利用他人的痛苦在牟利,每一次点击,我们都是在作出选择。文化中充斥的公开羞辱越多,越被接受,我们就会越多地看到网络欺凌、网络煽动、黑客入侵,还有线上骚扰。为什么?因为它们的核心都是羞辱,这种行为成为了我们所创造的一种文化症状。

改变行为从改变信念开始,无论是种族歧视还是同性恋歧视,现在和过去的很多歧视都是这样来消除。随着对同性婚姻观念的改变,更多人被赋予了平等的自由。随着对可持续性的倡导,越来越多的人开始回收利用。对于羞辱的文化也应如此,我们需要文化革命,公开羞辱这种流血的娱乐应当终止。无论是因特网上、还是文化中,现在都该干预了。

转变可以从简单的事开始,不过它本身并不简单。我们需要回归人类固有的一种价值,也就是同情心和同理心。网上正在经历同情心缺乏和同理心危机。引用研究者布琳·布朗的话,”羞辱在同理心下无法存活”。

我们经常提到表达自由的权利,此外我们还应该更多地谈到我们在表达自由上的责任。我们都希望自己的声音被听到,不过我们需要区分怀有意图的发声和请求关注的发声,因特网是表达自我的超级高速公路。不过在网上换位思考他人处境对所有人都是有利的,而且能够帮助创建更安全更美好的世界。我们需要怀着同情心在网上交流,怀着同情心阅读新闻,怀着同情心点击网站。

试想下自己活在别人的新闻头条里。

最后,我想以个人说明作结,过去九个月里我被问得最多的问题是为什么,为什么现在,为什么我要出这个头。你们应该可以听出这些问题的言外之意。答案同政治无关。

我的回答是:因为是时候了,是时候不再为过去而小心翼翼,是时候不再背负耻辱地活着,是时候讲述自己的经历。这不仅仅是为了拯救我自己,任何遭受耻辱和公开羞辱的人都需要知道一点——你能撑过来,我知道这很难,肯定会有痛苦,肯定不会来得轻松容易。不过你能坚持下去并书写出不同的故事结局。同情自己,我们都值得同情,无论线上还是线下,我们都需要生活在一个更富有同情心的世界。

谢谢聆听!